A Powerful Belief
You are not the “kind and compassionate person”.
You are not the “shy and inept person”.
You are not the “cruel and heartless person”.
You are not any person you take yourself to be. Upon investigation it is seen that the person is a bundle of thoughts, a few catch phrases in the mind. When it is seen that there is no person, then kindness and compassion simply happen and are boundless, shyness and ineptness arise and dissipate, the propensity to be cruel and heartless appear as a phantom in the space of what you are.
A belief in a “me who suffers” keeps kindness and compassion constrained, forces shyness and ineptness to remain as “personality traits”, and is the sponsor of untold cruelty and heartlessness.